Training in Compassion 10: No Blaming

Whatever happens, don't ever blame anyone or anything else. Take responsibility. Don't blame others, and don't blame yourself either. "Take responsibility" doesn't mean directing blame at yourself.

We often blame ourselves and have been doing so most of our lives. We are constantly feeling guilty about everything, and if we are not guilty, we are ashamed. You don't need to blame yourself for the situation you find yourself in. Just take full responsibility for what to do now that you're in that situation.

Even if it's actually someone's fault, you really can't blame them. Something happened, and since it did, there is nothing else to be done but to make use of it. Everything that happens, disastrous as it may be, and no matter whose fault it is, has a potential benefit, no matter how bad it may seem at first.

No blaming means you take the full appreciation and full responsibility for everything that arises in your life, no matter whose fault it is. No blaming is a tremendous practice of cutting through the long human habit of complaining and whining, and finding on the other side of all of that the strength to turn every situation into the path.

The important point is to accept that what has happened has actually happened. Accepting reality and accepting that you are now responsible for how to respond, you figure out what to do next. Sometimes this is especially hard to do. Try your best to stay present and patient and not let your mind run away with you.

Here you are. This is it. It is not some other way -- it is this way. There is no place else to go but forward into the next moment.

Repeat the slogan -- "No blaming" -- as many times as you have to.

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